Thursday, February 25, 2010

Warmth; it all started two years ago.


We're nearing the two-year mark in our relationship.

Feb. 26 FR came to my house to find out who I was. I had the bio-data.

Three weeks from there, we took our vows and held off on the wedding for three months of preparation.

My husband is sitting at his large brown wooden desk, with his left hand on his chin as he examines the data on his black Acer desktop computer. His blue shirt with minimal pink-stripped shirt rests upon his 130 lb. figure.

He smiles.

I am sitting across him on my Dell Inspiron laptop, wearing a red traditional salwar kamiz (which looks like a long dress with matching pants) and a yellow scarf.

We are older, more mature and in two worlds.

As he punches in figures, I write words; an accountant and a journalist.

With kids, family, work and school there's little wiggle space for us. And yet we are here in the same office room where we work and share the warmth in our hearts.

Friday, February 19, 2010

Detroit City, here we come!



I love to travel.

Our 2-year anniversary is coming up. Usually we take some kind of trip to commerate and make up for the time we don't have.

Last year we went to Chicago for the weekend.

Instead of going away and wasting money, we thought why not spend our anniversary visiting downtown Detroit.

With all the renovations and rich culture, it would be great to look around where we live. Rediscover Detroit.

I have a hard time making plans.

I know what I don't want to do: anything related to sports, theatre, too mushy stuff or visiting science museums. It's not anniversary material.

I wouldn't mind eating out, walking and doing something that's historical but also fun.

As of now the plan is to use up the week going places. I'm thinking to invite the family along for one of our trips, to be nice.

We'll see how that goes.

Any suggestions?

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Monday, February 15, 2010

Subway sandwich dates


It's that delicious tingle in my mouth from Jalapeno peppers, the smell of pickle and the salty taste of Monterrey Cheddar bread that draws me to a tuna Subway sandwich.

Prepared fresh, to eat fresh, the sandwich is what I consider one of the only health-conscious food on college campuses.

The best part of the foot-long delight is sharing it with a significant other.

My sandwiches went through life chapters.

* I used to share them with my friend R, who went to school with me freshman year. We often met up for lunch and triumphed through lunch-picking, ingredient shopping and munching.

* Then I went through a sister-sister bond with the sandwich, sharing my sandwich with fewer spices.

* And now I share the sandwich with my husband, who doesn't like a lot of fast food. I successfully convinced him to give up oily McDonald fish-fillet's for a fresh tuna sandwich.

I can remember a few times we have shared our meal:

While I was pregnant I secretly craved a sandwich for the life of me, although my doctor preferred me to be on liquids at that time. We took the chances of me puking out my lunch. It was a good risk.

After giving birth and being left on scarce meals, I was hungry! My family made meals; mushy rice with vegetables, which I didn't particularly like. One day my sister-in-law asked if I wanted anything to eat, and I quickly said no, making a mental note to send my husband to a Subway.

And today, we shared a refrigerated Subway sandwich.

It reminds me of our journey through parenthood - starting with pregnancy, to the delivery room, to after birth. What a beautiful journey with the tuna Subway sandwich.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Anonymous


What is wrong with freaking people calling me anonymous?

Anonymous - no name and no identity.

Who are you? What do you want?

I've been getting these calls, last Friday and today. They called at 6 a.m. and 6 p.m. Today the person called about 15 minutes ago, twice.

Didn't hear any voices, but I did hear buttons being pressed as the person examined if I was still on the line - I put my phone on mute like them.

I wonder, are you reading this too? Gees.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Twisty turny feeling


Twisting, turning...about to puke over nothing.

You know that feeling?

I think I'm nervous.

I've been feeling like this all day. I feel like something wants to come out. Something needs to be released. Maybe I need to scream.

I don't know what it is.

I have been falling far behind. Digging myself into a hole. Thinking way past my abilities.

Need to write a 1,500 features piece on my friend. Then another introduction about a city. Then an article critque. And study for my exam on Saturday. And study for a quiz on Monday.

Sigh.

Stress, the name of life.

Today I've been in the kitchen long enough to hate the look, smell and taste of it.

Just want to puke it all out.

It was just a dream: funny dreams.


Remembering my home in Florida

It was late at night.

I volunteered to close the doors to the white car with Lamborghini doors, that were left open a while ago. The windows seemed like they were palettes that had to be pressed into their spots.

The smell of flowers were intoxicating. Orange, red and bright flowers were bunched together in bushes. Recently bathed in the water sprinklers, the flowers smelled of wet earth and leaves.

"Silsila yeh chaahath" from the Bollywood movie Devdas played in the background.

A 19-year-old neighbor, or family member came behind the car and took a van to the masjid. It was pitch black. He was wearing a sleevless jersey.

My husband walked passed me, jumped into the van and said he'd come back and take care of the car.

Another neighbor toyed with his car, in the shared parking lot. The van took off to the masjid. The neighbor left.

I thought I could take care of the car.

Suddenly it became really dark. I shuddered from the darkness and the cold. No more headlights from the van, no more sprinklers.

I ran.

I ran all the way home, to my small two-bedroom apartment. It resembled my home in Florida. I screamed the whole way and heard monkeys echoing my scream. (God knows where they came from).

I shuddered.

(And woke up)

--- --- ---

The robber and "us"A lady danced and hopped around a courtyard in a South Asian neighborhood. She would pause with words she sang, emphasizing facial expressions as she moved her hands with her song. It reminded me of a frog leaping around.

She stopped and headed to her under-furnished clay and concrete home. My sister-in-law and I were invited to her empty living room. Barred windows overlooked the middle of the courtyard which was shared by neighbors.

She pulled out a huge shiny gold necklace from her closet. It was beautiful.

I asked my sister-in-law if it was really gold, as I couldn't put together the elements together without confusion and astonishment: large gold necklace in poor woman's home.

"It looks like a piece from a wedding set," I said.
"Probably," my sister-in-law replied.

I couldn't believe she was selling it.

The woman, desperately needing money, didn't seem to mind and insisted my sister-in-law could pay her back later.

As we walked home on the dirt path, we saw a man carrying a large cart with big round wheels walking in the opposite direction. It looked like a cart that needed a cow to help pull it, without a cow.

Suddenly a man waving his hands wildly was running up the path behind the cart-puller.

He seemed in a hurry and without a destination.

In fact, he was coming towards us.

"What a shame, the guy doesn't even move out of his way when he sees a thief running past him," my sister-in-law said.

"A thief?," I asked.

"We must stop him or else he will loot the whole neighborhood," my sister-in-law said.

"Okay," we encouraged each other and prepped ourselves for the encounter on the path.

Running past us into a backyard, the thief hid. We followed him.

"You know what you're doing isn't right," I said to him.

Protesting he said, "Yeah you're right I'm not going to do anything," and throws a $5bill at me.

"Omygosh you see this guy has a five-dollar bill! Not taka (lesser currency). Look at his nerves," I said to my sister-in-law.

We walked back to the front of the house, saw more dollar bills scattered on the floor. I picked them up thinking we can donate the money to the mosque since we didn't know who they belonged to and it would be wrong to keep stolen money.

Suddenly I remembered.

We were walking around with gold on us.

I tried to stuff the bills under my coat.

"That looks obvious you're hiding something," my sister-in-law said.

"Your tall figure and overly stuffed jacket looks fishy."

"You're right, we better get out of here before he robs us!," I said.

We ran all the way, straight home!

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

That's what makes him who he is: important men in my life



These will be easy, there aren't too many guys in my life!

He's 28. He's of medium height and build. He likes to joke around but seems like the serious type around people his age. He's quiet, shy and patient. He taught me how to be a family person. He's caring and understanding. He's alert. He's compassionate to helping others.

He's 12. Almost 13. He's tall. He looks like me. He's funny but he's quiet. He talks with his shoulders. He looks Korean. When he was a baby, he was chubby. I used to hold him in my arms, make him laugh and train him how to cry. He's become quiet a young man. When he talks, usually he makes me laugh and I learn new things.

He's 5. He's adorable, critical, loud and jumpy. He screams for fun. He has a contagious bubbly giggling laugh. According to his brother, "everyone knows him." In other words, he was popular since he was born. When he broke his leg everyone, young old serious funny came to see him. He likes to help others. He's a leader. He can speak two languages. He cares about others' feelings. He's a family guy.

He's 49. He's funny. He can have a conversation with anyone. He's sensitive. He's the third son in his family, but he acts like the oldest. He loves free stuff. He won't eat candy, cookies or American food unless it's offered to him. He's patient. He likes to cook chicken with potatoes. He's cultural.

He's 4 months. He's googly, cute and adorable Mashallah. He giggles. He's does the puppy-dog face. He goes to strangers. He can lift up his chin. He's 2-feet tall. He has Mongolian birth marks. When he's hungry, he shoves his whole fist in his mouth. He cries to talk. He hasn't learned how to walk.

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