Beautiful

If you want to know anything about Muslim style, my friend D has the hijabi married girl cultural yet stylish hook-up.
Her sister-in-law T has the best words for comfort, "I looked at you and wondered how to become more slim."
D's mom said, "You look beautiful but gosh don't you eat?"


B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L is something I forget, cannot or don't want to be.
With non-mahram family members living with me, it's a challenge to dress or doll up.
And with a mother-in-law who is an indoor hijabi too (she covers her hair even in front of her husband most of the time), I don't even show my hair to her.

The other day my sister-in-law mentioned it's haram to wear make-up in front of other guys. Time to put away my eyeliners. I know it's for the best but sometimes I almost want to say, well should I wear my make-up to bed? (To impress my husband.)

Privacy is a luxury for some. And yet I tell myself if I lived on my own I wouldn't have dressed up that much anyways :) I shouldn't think about those things. When you're married it's easier to take attraction for granted, although your spouse should be the first and most important person you dress up for.

Allah knows best.

Reflections

The Hereafter is close.

What is one way to obtain the best of this world and the Hereafter? Maintaining ties with people.

The Prophet Muhammad (sallahu wa alayhissalam) said:
Love people for the sake of God.

Allah will ask on the Day of Judgment: “Where are those who loved each other for the sake of My glory? Today, on a day when there is no shade but Mine, I shall shade them with My shade.” (Muslim)

Like what you like, and like it for others too for the sake of God.

It was related from Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "None of you can truly be said to believe until he wants for his brother what he wants for himself."

Keep your hands and tongue to yourself for the sake of God.


Abu Musa, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "They said, 'Messenger of Allah, whose Islam is best?' He said, 'The one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe.' "

"Rabbanathina fid'dunya hasanathun wafil akhirathi hasanatun wakina adhaaban'nar" -  Our Lord! Grant us good in this world and good in the hereafter, and save us from the chastisement of the fire.

May Allah help us increase our iman and sustain the best of both worlds. Ameen.

Words of Wisdom from our Creator who Created

"O mankind! if ye have a doubt about the Resurrection, (consider) that We created you out of dust, then out of sperm, then out of a leech-like clot, then out of a morsel of flesh, partly formed and partly unformed, in order that We may manifest (our power) to you; and We cause whom We will to rest in the wombs for an appointed term, then do We bring you out as babes, then (foster you) that ye may reach your age of full strength; and some of you are called to die, and some are sent back to the feeblest old age, so that they know nothing after having known (much), and (further), thou seest the earth barren and lifeless, but when We pour down rain on it, it is stirred (to life), it swells, and it puts forth every kind of beautiful growth (in pairs). (22:5)"

Trials, hardship and ease

There may be a thing you like which is not good for you and you may not like a thing that is.

"But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But God knoweth, and ye know not." (Quran 2:216) 

We wish for things we don't understand. And when we get them we repent. Subhanallah Allah blesses our lives with so many blessings and we ignore this.

I have a large family and it's interesting how things go into play. You can have your own schedule but it must match up with the family members' lives. In some cases this can drag you down, but for me it pulls me up. Even I don't always realize this.

Some changes I've noticed in myself:
More likely to stay home when it's for the best of my child.
Help husband for the reward.
Able to participate in household chores for reward.

Some hardships are blessings in disguise.
Help others with chores they start.
Listen to advice from elders on matters that seem mundane.